In celebration of Lucas’ 21st birthday this week, in this video blog, I’m going to share 5 lessons I’ve learned that might help you! A lot of these lessons are in Chapter 12 of my best-selling book, The Verbal Behavior Approach which was published a decade ago, sold more than 50,000 copies and is now available in 10 languages.
2) Medical Issues such as diarrhea or constipation, severe sleep and feeding issues, seizures, motor tics and any kind of pain are not a part of autism. I believe that Lucas and most of the kids I know with autism have other medical issues that need thorough evaluations and treatment. Don’t let medical or behavioral professionals make you believe that these problems can be chalked up to autism alone.
3) Whether your child is 2, 12, or 20, the best way I know of to keep track of progress as well as to keep data on medical issues, complications, and setbacks is this: Buy a dedicated calendar for you to write down when new therapies, medications, supplements or even when vitamins are started. One time when Lucas was young, he had severe problem behavior because of a multi-vitamin I started giving him which contained copper, which he and many kids with autism cannot process well. You can also keep track of sleep, the success of community outings and problem behaviors at the same time. I’ve kept a calendar like this every year for over 6 years and this data helped us figure out how to get Lucas’ major problem behaviors to 0 through a combination ABA therapy plus medications for his autonomic nervous system issues and allergies.
4) Recovery from autism is possible, especially for children who are mildly affected and start treatment before 30 months of age and ABA almost always leads to dramatic gains, even for older children. Just because Lucas didn’t recover from autism, doesn’t mean your child won’t. And, the great news is that even when children don’t recover, ABA can still make a huge difference, especially with very young children but even when ABA is started with older children, teens, or even adults.
5) Make sure you put the oxygen mask on yourself first. As you advocate for better medical and behavioral care for your child, you really must take care of yourself. You only have one life to live so you need to learn to enjoy it, even as you are tackling autism head on. Autism has been huge life-changer for me, but I’ve always managed to continue striving to reach my goals and to learn everything I could to help my son, and then eventually, I started helping a lot more people.
So happy 21st birthday to Lucas, and from the dedication of my book…..”to Lucas, who has taught me how to love unconditionally, to hope but not to expect and to appreciate the small steps along the way.”
If you’d like these 5 lessons in one handy place, download my cheatsheet here.
Please comment below and I’ll see you next week!