What Parents Can Do at the First Signs of Autism
Emerging autism-detection technology is exciting, but parents should not wait for a future breakthrough, or even a formal diagnosis, before supporting their child’s development.
Here are the steps I recommend.
1. Focus on connection and engagement
Before focusing on academic skills or getting a child to sit for long periods, help the child enjoy interacting with you.
Join activities the child already likes. Pair yourself with favorite toys, songs, movement, snacks, and playful routines.
The first goal is to become interesting and valuable to the child. This is called pairing and I discuss it at length in my online courses.
2. Create more back-and-forth interactions
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Try simple activities such as:
- Rolling a ball back and forth
- Pausing during a familiar song
- repeating puzzle piece names 3 times as you hand the child a piece.
- Imitating the child’s sounds or movements
- Offering choices and helping them gesture to one if there is no language.
- Encouraging the child to look, point, reach, gesture, or request
The child does not need to repeat every word. The goal is to create more opportunities for communication, joint attention, imitation, and engagement.
3. Watch carefully for regression
Regression means losing a skill a child previously demonstrated. This might include:
- Losing words
- Pointing or waving less
- No longer responding to their name
- Stopping familiar social games
- Becoming more restricted with food
- Developing new sleep problems
- Becoming less socially engaged
Regression should not be dismissed as “just a phase.” Write down what changed, record short videos, and discuss the changes with the child’s healthcare provider.
4. Replace some screen time with interaction
After studying Dr. Klin’s work, I changed how I think about screen time.
The concern is not only the screen itself. It is what the child may be missing while watching repetitive or nonsocial content:
- Faces and facial expressions
- Gestures
- Imitation
- Functional language
- Turn-taking
- Requesting
- Shared enjoyment
I do not recommend abruptly eliminating every screen, especially when videos are one of the child’s strongest reinforcers.
Instead, gradually replace some screen time with engaging activities and real-life interaction. Short periods of screen access may also be used strategically when needed.
5. Request screening and early intervention
You can complete my free Barbera Early Childhood Assessment to identify your child’s strengths and needs across language, learning, self-care, and problem behaviors.
Ask your pediatrician for developmental and autism screening. Parents in the United States can also contact their state’s early intervention program without waiting for an autism diagnosis.
But, don’t wait for the professionals to take action…
6. Start learning while you wait
A parent does not need an autism diagnosis or even early intervention in place to work on talking, understanding language, imitation, play, eating, sleeping, safety, or problem behaviors.
If the child has a speech delay rather than autism, these strategies can still help. If the child is later diagnosed with autism, the family has not lost months waiting to begin.
Learn how today!
Early Autism Detection Must Lead to Action
I spent more than a year in denial after my husband first raised concerns about Lucas at 21 months. I desperately wanted to believe he would be fine.
Lucas is now 30 and continues to need round-the-clock care and supervision. I cannot know what would have happened if I had understood the early signs and started parent-led intervention sooner.
I share this without blaming myself or other parents. We do the best we can with the information we have. When we know better, we can act sooner.
Autism detection is changing. Eye tracking, artificial intelligence, biomarkers, digital phenotyping, and tools such as the Frontera app may help families receive answers and support earlier.
But parents do not have to wait for technology, a diagnosis, or the top of a therapy waitlist to begin helping.
Early detection should lead to early, practical, parent-supported action.
If you are noticing early signs and want help choosing your next step, start here.