The Best Books for Toddlers and What To Do When They Don’t Want To Be Read To

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Hey there, it’s Dr. Mary Barbera here, and I am so excited to share with you amazing insights about the best books for toddlers we discussed in our latest podcast episode. In addition to picking the best books, we delved into the world of using books to increase language skills in children with autism or toddlers showing signs, and let me tell you, you won’t want to miss it! Even if your child HATES WHEN YOU READ BOOKS, we will help you to pick the right books, and set the stage for success with book reading and language comprehension.

You’ll Learn

  • Importance of pairing books with reinforcement
  • If you should read the same books over and over
  • What to do if a child won’t attend to books
  • The best books for toddlers and other developmental stages
  • How to shorten book time for success
  • Improve speech and language using books
  • Why new library books are important
  • Creating realistic expectations during book reading

What if My Child Won’t Let Me Read to Them?

One of the common concerns we addressed was what to do if your child is not interested in reading. Well, fear not, you are not a bad parent! I actually had the same issues with my son. We provided some fantastic strategies to make reading more enjoyable for both you and your child. From choosing the best toddler books that align with their interests, and shortening reading time to incorporating sensory experiences, we’ve got you covered.

But that’s not all. We also tackled the question of feeling like a bad parent when your child isn’t showing interest in books. Let me assure you, that you are not alone! We shared practical tips on how to start with short, quick book sessions and not put too much pressure on yourself or your child. Remember, reading doesn’t have to be a lengthy process, and even focusing on the pictures can still be beneficial.

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How to Use Books to Improve Speech and Language in Children with Autism

Most parents think of books as something to wind down with at bedtime—but books can actually be one of the best tools to boost your child’s language and learning throughout the day.

I often teach parents how to use my simple—but powerful—book program to increase speech, improve comprehension, and reduce scripting. This is not about just reading stories from start to finish. Instead, we use physical books as interactive learning tools that support language development, build vocabulary, and spark conversation.

Here’s how to get started:

  • 📚 Visit the library weekly and pick out 5–10 new books with real-life themes—like kitchens, flowers, farming, or outdoor play.

  • 🧠 Use one line per page to keep things simple and engaging.

  • ❓ Ask questions about each page—about 80% should be things your child already knows (like “What is this?” “What color?” or “show me the dog”). The questions will depend on the child’s language ability but doesn’t need to involve vocal answers. 

  • 📝 Write down any words they don’t know—If you ask them to show you something like “ladder” or “shovel” and they don’t know them write them down—so you can teach those later.

  • 🔁 Rotate books weekly so your child doesn’t memorize or script from them.

By using real books instead of repetitive apps or videos, you give your child a fresh, interactive learning experience every time. Plus, it becomes a fun weekly routine you can both enjoy. And because books rotate out regularly, it reduces scripting and helps you better identify what your child understands—and what still needs to be taught.

Want to see the full breakdown of my book program? Be sure to check out the Book Program Bonus Video and all my other videos on building language at home inside my online course or coaching program.

Language Success with Books

A course member shared after listening to this podcast, their great experience with the book program…

“When we started reading books to our 3 yo daughter we did a lot of labeling. We check out new books from our library every 2 weeks based off recommendations from the Book Program video. She has always loved books but rough with them so we sit with her everyday when going through the books to limit page tearing, etc. Sometimes she wants us to actually read every word & sometimes she doesn’t. However, her language has benefited so much since we started doing this. She loves the Maisy books by Lucy Cousins. We also use book reading time to ask her questions. She learned new objects, even propositions from books.” -Course Member comment

Final Thoughts on Using Books to Build Speech

So, join me as we dive into the world of using books effectively for children with autism. It’s time to unlock the incredible potential within each child and foster their love for reading. 

 

Reading doesn’t have to be long or perfect to be powerful—especially for children with autism. By using simple, interactive books and following your child’s lead, you can turn everyday reading into a fun and effective way to build language skills. Even if your child resists at first, start small, stay consistent, and you’ll be amazed at the progress that’s possible. 

 

Tune in now for an episode filled with practical tips, strategies, and inspiration. Same time, same place. See you there!

Top 5 FAQs About Reading Books to Kids with Autism and Building Speech

The key is to keep it simple and interactive. Use books with one line per page and clear, realistic pictures. Ask questions about familiar objects and concepts, and follow your child’s lead. You’re not aiming for a full story—focus on engagement, labeling, and comprehension.

Whenever possible, use physical books—especially ones from the library. Physical books reduce screen time, scripting, and overstimulation. They also allow for variety and novelty, which keeps your child interested and prevents rote memorization.

Once you have the book selected, sit down and read the one line per page. On each page, ask the child to show you something, or ask a basic question. We want to ask kids questions in a way that they know most answers. When you come accross something they don’t know, make sure to add it to your structured teaching. 

Aim for short reading sessions throughout the day, not just at bedtime. Even 5–10 minutes a few times per day can have a big impact. Weekly library visits can keep things fresh and create a predictable, language-rich routine.

That’s very common—and totally okay! Start with short sessions and don’t force it. Let your child flip through the book while you label one or two items. Use books with topics they already enjoy (like animals, vehicles, or food), and try reading during calm, screen-free moments. Over time, you can build up their tolerance and interest.

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