How to Help a Late Talker

Dr. Mary Barbera

  • Early Intervention Matters: Identifying whether your child’s speech delay might indicate autism, ADHD, or another developmental challenge is crucial. Being a late talker means beginning assessments right away. Begin with tools like the Barbera Early Childhood Assessment™ (BECA) to evaluate key developmental areas such as self-care, language, and behavior.
  • Understanding Language Use: Monitor not just how much your child talksto review if they are a late talker but also how they use language. Functional communication, receptive language (understanding), and social interaction provide critical insights into their development.
  • Practical Steps for Progress: Simplify your language, use repetition, and implement strategies like video modeling and positive reinforcement. Accessible resources, like the 5-days to more talking mini-course, can empower parents to take actionable steps from home.

Having a child who is a late talker can be stressful. Will they talk on their own? Do I need to intervene? Are they just a late talker or is it more – like autism? Whether they are just late talkers or it is more, the fact remains that there is a lot you can do. That’s why I’m going over how to assess your child’s speech delay, the difference between late talkers and autism, and tips you can use today to help your child.

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Coaching

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By Application Only

Invest in support from Dr. Mary Barbera and her coaching team. By application only. Get individualized feedback so that your child or client (with or without a diagnosis of autism) can make the most progress in the shortest amount of time. Get all the details and fill out a confidential application today!

Online Course & Community

$997

Free Workshop to Learn More

Start using a child-friendly and proven approach to increase talking, decrease problem behaviors and improve picky eating, sleeping, potty training and more for parents and professionals helping kids with autism and toddlers showing signs.

5 Days to More Talking DIY Mini-Course

50% Off Now!

$97

$67

Are you ready to start turning language delays around, but not sure how? Then this 5 Day mini-course is a great way to get started. In just 5 days you’ll learn how to complete important assessments and create a plan to increase language, all while avoiding common mistakes often made and making the process fun and engaging for your child or clients.

Late Talking Children

Recently I spoke with a new member of my turn autism around community. The dad wasn’t ready to label his child with autism while the mom was ready to start interventions. Dad mentioned that he himself was a late talker and felt like his daughter was just a late talker too. So the question is, do you wait for late talkers to catch up? Or how can you tell if there’s something more?

When the word autism was first considered for my son, Lucas, I met with a friend who told me that if ABA therapy was working for kids with the most severe autism, why wouldn’t it help my son who I thought was just speech delayed? It was from then on, I decided to do everything I could to help my own son catch up developmentally. Whether your child is a late talker or has autism, you want to start intervention as soon as possible.

Assessing a Speech Delay

Assessing whether a child may have a speech delay, ADHD or autism needs to be done by a psychologist or qualified professional but, there are steps you can take at home to begin noticing what you may be dealing with.

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Did you know? Pointing and using gestures is the first sign of communication. We want to see this by 18 months.

Five Key Areas to Assess Speech Delay or Autism

1. Speech and Language Usage

Examine not just how much your child is talking but how they’re using language. Key questions include:

  • Are they using words functionally, such as saying “juju” for juice while pointing?

  • Are they labeling objects but not engaging with others?

  • Are they scripting phrases from videos without contextual understanding?

Language regression is another critical sign. For instance, Lucas’ language appeared typical before his first birthday but became intermittent afterward. Pay close attention to how your child’s language evolves. Using gestures is a great first sign for late talkers. 

2. Understanding Language (Receptive Language)

Receptive language, or how well your child understands others, is crucial. A child’s ability to follow simple directions or respond to their name can reveal much about their developmental stage. A child who can follow basic directions, but doesn’t have speech may be a late talker. If a child also struggles to follow directions, this may be a furthur sign of autism. 

3. Social Communication and Play Skills

Observe your child’s social interactions and play behaviors.  Seeing delays in this area are the top signs of autism instead of “just” being a late talker. 

 Signs of concern include:

  • Limited eye contact or gestures, such as pointing.

  • Lack of imitation, such as clapping or waving.

  • Minimal response to their name or other social cues.

4. Imitation Skills

Imitation is foundational for language and play development. Can your child mimic simple actions or sounds? If not, it may signal a need for intervention.

5. Behavior and Flexibility

Watch for excessive insistence on sameness or repetitive behaviors, such as:

  • Focusing on one object for extended periods.

  • Lining up toys or objects.

  • Meltdowns triggered by changes in routine.

While some rigidity is normal in toddlers, excessive behaviors may warrant further evaluation.

We want to assess all language areas, expressive and receptive. Also, assess things like social language sharing, playing, pointing to show you things, and imitation. And look at whether tantrums are excessive, whether there’s very much insistence on sameness and what their play looks like. These are the keys to noticing the difference between a late talker and autism. 

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Is it Just a Speech Delay or Autism?

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Whether a child is a late talker or has autism, my strategies can help and should be started.

Being a late talker doesn’t necessarily mean autism. I have a video blog on the difference between autism and speech delay and another video blog on autism versus ADHD that go into this more. Some kids who have language delays and are late talkers actually do just catch up on their own or with some minimal help.

But some kids who have some speech will have words that they don’t use functionally. Those are the kids with poor expressive language and receptive language. Those are kids that we should be more concerned about. Kids who don’t use language functionally will label things but won’t ask for things. They may not be good at nonverbal communication such as pointing, sharing, showing you things, and imitation. If they’re not responding to their own name that may also be a red flag.

A late talker who’s pointing and sharing and showing an understanding of language, might just be a late talker. But, a late talker with a lot of other issues may have autism. It’s important, regardless of what it is or what it might be, for you to not be in denial like I was. Waitlists for evaluations are long. Get on a waitlist just in case because it can take months and sometimes over a year long to see a developmental pediatrician to tell if it’s autism or something else.

How to Help Late Talkers

Regardless of a diagnosis, you can build language starting right now by taking these simple steps and also check out joining my online mini-course to build speech and language in just 5 days! 

1. Learn Developmental Milestones

Familiarize yourself with developmental milestones using resources like the CDC’s Act Early website. Compare your child’s progress with these benchmarks to identify areas of concern.

2. Conduct an Early Childhood Assessment

The Barbera Early Childhood Assessment (BECA) is a 10-minute tool that helps parents evaluate:

  • Self-care skills (e.g., eating, sleeping, dressing).

  • Language and learning abilities.

  • Behavior patterns.

This assessment doesn’t diagnose conditions but provides a snapshot of your child’s developmental stage.

3. Speak with Your Pediatrician

Don’t wait for your child’s next well-visit to address concerns. Schedule an appointment to discuss your observations. Your pediatrician can refer you to early intervention services for free or low-cost evaluations and therapies.

4. Simplify Language and Use Reinforcement

Start using simple, one- to two-syllable words and gestures to encourage communication. Repeat words up to three times and use positive reinforcement to build language skills.

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Start building first words using this strategy! Keep language simple.
 

Late Talkers

Having a late talker may be just that, a late talker. Others who are late talkers may go on to receive an autism diagnosis. As scary as this all is, the best step is to act now. Do an assessment, check out the milestones and learn more about techniques to help your child. The longer we wait for talking to come, the harder it becomes to help these kids catch up. Breaking language down to single words and repeating them frequently can help. You may want to check out my number one technique to get a child talking or talking more called the Shoebox Program.

How to Take Action Now for Late Talkers

Whether or not your child has a diagnosis, there’s much you can do to support their development. One effective starting point is our “Five Days of More Talking” mini-course. This self-paced program offers practical strategies to:

To learn more, visit marybarbera.com/5days. Early action can make a significant difference, so don’t wait. Begin helping your child today!

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Top 5 FAQ for Late Talkers

Understanding key behavioral and language milestones can help differentiate typical delays from more serious conditions. Knowing the 10 early signs of autism can help differentiate between late talkers and autism. 

The BECA is a quick, accessible tool for evaluating developmental areas.You will receive 3 scores which will help you to determine the child’s strengths and weaknesses. Language scores closer to 100 indicate less of a concern. 

It’s best not to wait for the next routine visit. Schedule an appointment as soon as concerns arise and bring detailed observations. Better yet, get started with the 5 days to more talking mini-course today. 

Simplify your language, use repetition, incorporate gestures, and consider video modeling to engage and encourage your child’s speech development.

The 5-days to more talking mini-course can give you practical steps to take including assessment and intervention tools.

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